Submission

posted Dec 22, 2010 | views: 529 | Tags: ugg, control, BDSM, Jordan, gulp, xvxvx
I've been attending a few seminars on the subject of being controlled versus surendering your submission. 
 
Many of us like the challenge of a strong dominant overcomming us and asserting their power over us, proving that they are worthy of our submission but wouldn't the true submissive or slave surender her power to her dominant because she loves and respects him?
 
Why would she require him to prove anything to her?
 
  .. interesting point of view don't you think?


Comments

  • littleslut said Dec 22, 2010...
    very interesting. but if you allow yourself to be overcome, surely that is submission in itself? and it also must depend on whether you are a submissive or a slave? i don't really know what we need our dominants to prove, i only know that i myself am more comfortable if my Sir is consistent in his behaviour.
  • DaddysLittleSlut said Dec 22, 2010...
    I too agree a dominint should be consistant. In order for us to respect his honor, he must hold himself to a standard.    But, what do you mean by "allowing yourself to be overcome"?  Do you require your dominant to perform certain acts before you will submit to him?  Or do you approach him from the bottom, ready to serve?   In my opinion I don't think it matters whether you're submissive or slave.  I think this is the difference between topping and bottomming.  There is always a good discussion on the topic of topping from the bottom.  When a sub is in control of the situation by directing the top as would the case with a paid Dominatrix.
  • Girlygirl said Dec 23, 2010...
    wow that is a really interesting point...hmmmm...i'll have to think about that one.. For now I would say i guess i kinda did make Daddy prove that he could be my dominant...but not really. Before we were even involved int he lifestyle I gave in to him just out of the pleasure I got, and I always loved the little controlling things he did. I did however make him prove himself trustworthy before I got to where I could trust him ( but isn't it like that in any relationship?). However, once I trusted him now i just submit becuase I like to and I know he will handle things. So I guess once he earned my trust...i submit now out of love and respect and trust...its no longer even a thought to do anything else. That's a really good discussion tho..were the seminars good? Which conclusion did you come to? I can see both sides of that argument..but I can also seem how making him prove his power, or making him fight for your submission would kind of be topping from the bottom.
  • DaddysLittleSlut said Dec 27, 2010...
    I definitely do both.  In fact in the beginning, I really thought it was his role to prove that he could top me.  After all I didn't seek this lifestyle, I was convinced of doing it but not with my current boyfriend.  I just drug all my preconceptions and past expectations from one relationship to the next.   The hardest part of this journey has been for me to let go of my past training.  I need to start fresh without topping from the bottom.  I need to stop telling SG, that's not how its supposed to be.. I need to surender and serve.  Either I respect him or I shouldn't be trying to serve him.  Its been a struggle for me since I had kept my expectations.  I'm still letting those go and realizing that I've been wrong.  Not an easy thing for me to admit.  Since I thought I was such a good sub..lol. 
  • DaddysLittleSlut said Dec 28, 2010...
    Oh about the discussions.. I'm lucky that SG finds discussion groups and seminars to take me to on fetlife.com   While I think of soulcast as my anonymous outlet for thinking things through, fetlife is my link to the BDSM community.    We read books too.  Right now I'm reading the kindle version of The New Bottomming Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton. 
  • cowboy303old said Dec 28, 2010...
    Great reading again DLS. Now i love to be controlling, and for many years looked for women that were very submissive in all ways. It's easier to train if you don't first have to break their will. They are usually shy, consumed in their selfs, can't make a decisinon on their own ones. They crave being told what to do, when to do it, and how often to do it and work best for me. Women thats been told all their lifes starting with their Dads work best. Then just simply mold them into the subs that work best for you. Never had one that didn't like it and even if they did not agree with you they were willing to play along. Then i found one that likes to dom and saw the other side and damn if i didn't love it more.Got to blog about it sometime. Again....thanks for your blogs!!! 
  • copsunite said Jan 14, 2011...
    hi!

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